On Time

What I don't like about e-mails? They're easy to dispose of. Unlike snail mails which you physically have a copy of them and you choose immediately whether to toss them or keep them, e-mails are easy to delete because it's like you never "had" them if having is defined by actually holding them in your two hands.

Anyway, so Tet mentioned to me before that she prints out the e-mails that she wants to save forever. Okay, why didn't I think of that? LoL. In the last two years alone, I have received some memorable e-mails from people and I thought about printing them out. So, I went back to my old e-mail account, checked the Inbox, and was devastated to find out that I only had a couple of those e-mails saved...until I checked the Sent folder. Voila! They're all there!

Yes, reading them again brought smiles to my face. Some of them are prophetic even. HaHa! So here's something for the masses; it's the same thing that I was trying to explain to someone, but couldn't quite make my point (author's name withheld because I've never asked permission to publish this. HaHa!):

start of e-mail --

July 28, 2004

Well, maybe you're just picky? High standards? Nothing wrong with that really. I'm like that. But sometimes you'll only get to know for sure if the person is the right one when you're already in a relationship. So instead of not even giving it a try, like what I used to do, I started taking things as they come without too much expectations and seeing how it goes from there.

(paragraph deleted)

What works for us is that we are open to changing our ways and we've got the kiss-and-make-up part down pat, kasi we do it so many times, hehe.

So, she's not everything I wanted, and I'm not everything she wanted, but we're committed to becoming better persons for each other. She makes me want to be a better man (naks).

How did I know she was the right person for me? Well, I had peace in my heart (I prayed if I'm making the right decision). Unlike other past relationships that started with a bang and ended with a whimper, my love for her just kept growing.

And we are alike in so many ways. We enjoy each other's company. We like to do stuff together. She's my best friend really. And we complement each other as well in other ways.

I'll never learn these things if at the start pa lang I find something wrong with her and not give it a chance.

I used to think there is one person for me in the universe. But I don't subscribe to that anymore. Maybe for some, they do find their perfect match. But for most people, it takes some more effort to make things better. We belong to that category. It's such a cliche but it's all about being the right person, not finding "the one".

-- end of e-mail

Yihee! LoL. But I don't think that's the same advice that I get from that person whenever we talk in real life. Sinisi pa! HaHa!

All of that is the original e-mail except for the paragraph that had incriminating evidence, I mean, personal information. What was written there was the time it took for the two people to get together. What did I learn from that? It does take time and it does take patience. And that's what I don't have. :: violins playing ::

Though it was hurtful at the time, someone told me that I can't possibly expect guys to take me seriously here in Manila only because I'm like a ticking timebomb. For guys who are usually commitment phobes (ows?), I'm like the biggest risk there is, too big to take, because my stay here is limited according to this person. So that's what was on my mind since day one...okay, day nine since that was when my first date here in Manila happened (not wanting to waste time nga, di ba? HaHa!).

Crap, I think I veered off from my point. Time and patience! The best advice about relationships that I've gotten from someone lately is: "The people whose relationships last are people who WORK for their relationships. It doesn't just happen because two people are 'perfect for each other.'"

So, take your time. Take it slow (*SIGH 2007. HaHa!). Huwag sabik (there's already a population problem in this country!). Simply enjoy the ride because someone is happy enough that you're there. Yihee! HeHe.