Menace to Society

I hate torpes.

While most women (who are all attached probably) cheer on the local torpe to keep doing what he’s doing, I, on the otherhand, just roll my eyes. Torpes make my life a living hell. Okay, okay, that was a bit harsh. I’m just saying that being single sucks and the torpes of the world aren’t exactly helping anyone around here.

Exactly one week ago, my 17-year-old male cousin and I had a bonding moment. I asked him about his lovelife and he laid out all the details for me, hoping that I could give him some advice. At that time, things weren’t going well and I told him to go find another girl who was worth his time. I told him, “Pogi ka naman. Tapos, here in the Philippines, it’s the norm for the guy to seek after girls. Kaming mga babae, we can’t do that. We just sit and wait. My point is that you have the power to find a girl who will love you just as much as you love her.”

Not to oppress my fellow women, but you got to agree that it’s not a part of the culture around here for the girl to go around and ask the guy out. I mean you could and I assume some guys would actually like that, but generally speaking, it’s just not done around here. Hence, the guys got to ask; the guys have to make the move. If the guys don’t, then all the single people in this country will be home every Friday blogging like me. You don’t want that; trust me. HeHe.

My point is that even if the guy is romantic, it doesn’t mean much if he doesn’t actually show it to the girl. Even if the guy is a good guy, it doesn’t mean much if he’s stuck at home just thinking about the good things he will do for the girl. You got to walk the walk and talk the talk, fellas. In other words, “Magpakalalake ka!”

Yes, it’s easier said than done. I will never ever know what it’s like to be a guy (Yes, regardless of my un-girly ways, I will never know what it’s like to be a guy!). I understand that. I also understand that as humans, our ego and superegos need to be protected. Getting rejected sucks. I know that for a fact. But, we got to do what we got to do. If we want something, go for it. Take the risk. Afterall, who would want a guy who doesn’t have the balls to do what he needs to do in life? Guys like those were the ones who died during the caveman days because they didn’t venture out and get the food that they needed or the girl they needed to procreate. You don’t want to be like them, do you?

All I really want is for everyone to be happy and what we fail to realize is that our happiness depends on us. Life is there for our taking; love is there for our taking. At my age, wasting time isn’t really in my agenda anymore. “You like me? Yes? Good. You don’t? Okay, let me find someone else who does.” It’s as easy as that. Let’s not prolong the agony. Cut to the chase. Be honest. Whatever the outcome may be, at least you know the truth. I would rather have the truth as quickly as possible rather than a lifetime of “what ifs.”

Caveat: There is also a fault in “feeling hanep/pogi” so when I say go for what you want, proceed with caution. And yes, the counterpart of the torpes are the pakipots. If you decide to continue being a torpe, damn, find a pakipot. Magsama kayo and let me know the outcome of that relationship. Ewan ko lang kung may mapapala kayo sa mga buhay ninyo! I sound bitter again. Tsk. Tsk. HaHa! Peace to all!